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What I am Doing For Lent (2016)

Yesterday was Ash Wednesday, the start of Lent.

With battling Lyme Disease I had already given up quite a bit:

  • Fast food- it doesn’t agree with me anymore, I rarely eat it, and when I do my body doesn’t like it
  • Alcohol- I rarely drink it because of all the medicine I am on
  • Sweets- I still eat these, but no where near as much as I used to
  • Junk food- same thing as sweets

Even my priest and family said I should only focus on getting better for lent. My priest has been very helpful and supportive while I am dealing with all the affects of lyme disease.

Well I still feel the need to do something for lent, so I decided to do something I don’t do very often anymore. Pray.
I can’t really tell you when I last prayed on a daily basis. I still believe in God. I believe he exists. It’s not just because of faith either. I have felt him in others. It’s hard to explain.

Anyway back to why I chose to pray more.

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Happy Easter!

He Is Risen!


We Need to Be Better than the Westboro Baptist Church


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Once more the Westboro Baptist Church have made news. This time they were protesting in Moore, OK were March of last year a tornado ripped through the area, including a school were there were many students victims and once more students attend this very school. It is not the first time that the Westboro Baptist Church has come to the community of Moore, OK to protest.

Outside of the school in the designated area they picketed. The community of Moore heard about this and came out in counter protest. While I am all for a counter protest, having been to one myself, I am against violent/aggressive confrontations. Unfortunately things got a little heated at the counter protest.

The above video by A7Vegas on youtube.

I know that since I have personally not lost anyone and had the Westboro Baptist Church people will immediately leave comments saying




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You are right. I don’t fully understand. I can imagine. I can think of different scenarios, but I have not experienced pain/loss/tragedy and than have the Westboro Baptist Church show up on my doorstep telling me that the death of a loved one is being rejoiced by God. You are right. I don’t know.

But just because I can never fully understand/comprehend doesn’t mean I can’t recognize the fact that we should stoop down to their level, or stoop lower than the Westboro Baptist Church. We need to be better than them.

Going after them, trying to intimidate them. That is what they want. That is what they are expecting to get out of us.

I won’t lie, the more side of me that enjoys the idea of revenge got a little satisfaction when I saw the Westboro Baptist Church running away like river rats. As soon as I felt that way though, I immediately felt guilt. Even if they are the worst kind of people out there, they are still people. We, as people, shouldn’t act that way towards them. No matter how horrible they have been to us.

Quick question to those that live in Moore, Oklahoma and I would love this question to be answered. Is it true that a liquor store did a sale and or discount in celebration of Fred Phelps death?

While smart business and funny. At the same time though it is nice to celebrate anyones death, even if that person is Fred Phelps.

What are your thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments below!


What the Westboro Baptist Church Taught Me

filled with hate I  don’t remember when I first heard of the Westboro Baptist Church, but I do remember my reaction. I was angry. I wanted to get in their faces and I wanted to yell at them, “Who did they think they were? God himself??!!” Now, many years later since I first heard of the Westboro Baptist Church my feelings have somewhat changed. With Fred Phelps recent death I can’t help but think of the Westboro Baptist Church and its legacy of hate filled mantras, colorful signs filled with nonsense as they picket at funerals- hurting the families and friends of the deceased. After seeing their actions they have taught me something. Thou Shall Not Hate. Of course that seems really obvious, but think about it. Is there someone you don’t like? Is there someone who treated you in an awful manner that even the thought of them brings hatred out in you? Exactly. Hate is an easy emotion to succumb to and a hard emotion to conquer. I remember when there was word that they were going to picket a soldiers funeral about a year or 2 ago. . A facebook event was soon made and I knew I had to go. I didn’t care if I missed class or not, for me this was important.  I soon made a sign and I realized and knew that if I spouted any words of hate I would be just as much of an hypocrite as Fred Phelps and his whole community.


My Sign at the Counter Protest

I decided to put these words on the sign because this can apply to everyone. Those that have just lost loved ones. Those that are at the counter protests and any of the Westboro Baptist members. I went to the counter protest and we got there real early, early enough to attend another persons funeral. Many people had american flags, gay pride flags, signs that said Peace and Love. I loved seeing bible verses, verses from the Torah and the Koran. There were quotes from Buddha also. It was wonderful to see a diverse group of people come together to show their support to a grieving family. There were also (of course) people with their signs saying that the Westboro Baptists should go to Hell (which it is understandable, but still it’s not right), and others that treated this whole thing as a joke. These people even though it was good (somewhat) that they were there, they obviously didn’t understand the full purpose of this counter protest. While waiting we the counter protesters were invited by the family who was threatened to be protest invited us closer to the funeral home. I of course was all for it. Holding my sign for the family and friends. They were the ones who were suffering, they needed comfort. The focus shouldn’t be about countering hate with hate, but giving love to those who are being hated on and yes be loving to those filled with hate. I remember at one point while facing the street away from the funeral home that a group of people in a car actually flipped me off and told me to go to hell. I was shocked and I still think they were either supporters of the Westboro’s or they were “scouts” trying to see whether or not it would be worth to come out and protest the funeral. Either way I have learned within my heart that the only way to counteract hate is with love. It is really easy to give in to the emotion of hate, but that is not the answer. They taught me to love and how to love, even in the face of hatred itself. Thank you Westboro Baptist Church,  you taught me how not to act. You taught me that hatred is wrong. You taught me why compassion is important. the most important lesson you taught me  is how to love you and love all those filled with hate. It is not an easy task, it never is, but I will do my best. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~


Why I am Not Rejoicing Over Fred Phelps Death


When I checked my twitter account and saw the news the Fred Phelps died today. I didn’t feel joy nor did I feel sadness. I felt- apathetic.

I have seen many people in one extreme or the other. Laughing it up that Fred Phelps will no doubt have a rude awakening when he discovers he is in hell. While others are more forgiving, hoping the man realized in his last moments on earth that he was wrong and or that God would have mercy on this hateful man.

Me, I don’t care what happens to him either way. I am just glad that one less presence of hatred exists in this world.

Even though I can’t laugh at him, I also have a hard time for feeling bad for him. I do feel bad for him, slightly. Only slightly though.

Here is my reasoning…

That man had been filled with hate for so long, he felt the need to spread that hate and use religion as an excuse for that hate.  Hate is the absence of Love and obviously this man was not filled with love and he did not feel loved by others (even way before he spread his message of hate- hate like this doesn’t take a day to build up, it takes years of holding it in and resentment). While that is no excuse for his actions, it does bring an emotion of pity. It is such a pity that whatever happened or didn’t happen to him caused him to have so much hatred in his heart that he had to spread it to the rest of the world.

Whether he was taught to hate or he learned to hate others over time, I couldn’t tell you. I don’t know his life. I haven’t read about his life and I don’t really care to do that.

As a result I don’t think we should picket his funeral. Yes I know he instructed and inspired others to picket funerals whether they were soliders, children, etc who had died. I don’t think we should go picket (even though the immature part of me really wants to). I think we all should just leave the man and his sad, small community alone. For it is a community filled with hate and that is something to be pitied.

Should we defend ourselves against hatred? Yes! Should we stand up for ourselves and others for when their hatred is causing harm? Of course! Should we go and antagonize people that are in mourning? No, for we will be stooping down to their level and we all should act be better than that.

Let us not rejoice over this death. Let us just acknowledge it and move on.


I Don’t Know What to Give Up (or Do) For Lent.

lent_6316cFor Christians everywhere the time of year is coming up when we have to either give up something for lent or we have to do something for lent. I have done so much of both, I don’t know what to do.

I won’t lie, a part of me is really sick of having to think of ideas each lent. I get tired of having to sacrifice something, or having to do something. I’m lazy, a huge part of me just wants to not care or worry about it. I just don’t want to. I have been Catholic all my life and right now, I just don’t want to think about that.

Giving up food seems superficial, forcing myself to do something doesn’t seem like a fun idea either.

Before any Christians get up in arms about me not wanting to do something or giving up something, yes I know that I should. Jesus sacrificed his life for mine. The least I can do is do something or make a sacrifice for the next 40 days and 40 nights. You don’t have to post angry, righteous posts. I already know the arguments. I’m just getting this out.

I hope I’m not the only one that hasn’t felt this way, I know it is very unlikely that I am the only one that feels this way. Still though, I just feel a little disheartened by this topic.

Have you ever felt this way? Do you know what you are giving up for lent? Let me know in the comments below.