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My Worst Valentine’s Day Ever (AKA A Sign From God Himself telling me this Relationship was a bad idea)

I’m going back to the time when I was in high school. I was in a relationship that should never have been. My parents didn’t like him (for good reason), my best friend was always concerned for me, and he was emotionally abusive (calling me names: fat, saying that had love handles, that I was gaining weight, that I was smart, but not that smart, saying that he loved me and only I understood him, getting upset when I was around other guys, etc.) and somewhat sexually abusive to me and pressuring me to do some things I didn’t want to, making me feel guilty or a bad girlfriend.

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Don’t worry, there’s nothing triggering or super scary in this story (thankfully). I’m just setting it up, so you can understand why this was the worst valentine’s day ever for me.

The day before we had another huge argument/fight at school after school. I don’t even know what about anymore, I think it may have been over another girl or something. Or how he thought she was hot and that I don’t fit the definition of “hot.” I felt hurt/ offended by what he said (rightly so). We made up though and he said he was looking forward to spending Valentine’s Day with me and would get me something special.

A couple things to keep in mind throughout this whole post:

  • this was my first time in a relationship for Valentine’s Day
  • he had a job and I didn’t
  • he didn’t really have any expenses
  • I have been dating this guy for about 5 months, although I have known him longer, who manipulates me emotionally, abuses me emotionally and sexually.

Even after this fight I had bought for him a card and a chocolate reese’s heart, yes I still remember to this day and I will tell you why later. You are probably thinking this in regards to me getting him something and still staying with him after he said I wasn’t hot and all the other bad shit he has said about me to my face.

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And you are right, it was messed up. My head wasn’t in the right place. I know that.

Now, this all occurred February 13.

Next Day Valentine’s Day Around 3-4 in the morning.

Be warned, the story gets gross from here on out. You have been warned.

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50 Classic Stories to Read (Instead of 50 Shades of Grey)

These books are stimulating and there is usually more than just romance in the story. There is this crazy thing called plot and it just happens to be well written too! In fact you might learn something. Some have happy endings, while others are tragic. Either way, you don’t need badly written erotica to learn more about yourself.

A List of Classic Stories that I would read over 50 Shades of Grey any day:

  1. Pride and Prejudice
  2. Persuasion
  3. Northanger Abbey
  4. Emma
  5. Mansfield Park
  6. Sense and Sensibility
  7. Wuthering Heights
  8. Jane Eyre
  9. Romeo and Juliet
  10. Much Ado About Nothing
  11. The Great Gatsby
  12. Les Miserables
  13. Gone with the Wind
  14. Anna Karina
  15. Their Eyes were Watching God
  16. Madam Bovary
  17. Casablanca (it was a play before a movie)
  18. Dangerous Liaisons
  19. Oliver Twist
  20. Fathers and Sons
  21. The Color Purple
  22. Vanity Fair
  23. I, Robot
  24. Growing up Rich
  25. Foundations Trilogy
  26. Lord of the Rings Trilogy
  27. The Hobbit
  28. Of Mice and Men
  29. Tender is the Night
  30. Slaughterhouse-Five
  31. The Man in the Iron Mask
  32. Atlas Shrugged
  33. Heart of Darkness
  34. The Sun Also Rises
  35. Moby Dick
  36. The Count of Monte Cristo
  37. Cat’s Cradle
  38. The Picture of Dorian Gray
  39. The Rum Diary
  40. The Pillars of the Earth
  41. Ender’s Game
  42. Persepolis
  43. Maus
  44. I Know Why The Caged Birds Sing
  45. The Three Musketeers
  46. A Lesson Before Dying
  47. The Scarlet Letter
  48. Little Women
  49. Dracula
  50. The Bell Jar

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50 Movies To See on Valentine’s Day (Not 50 Shades of Grey)

I know my boyfriend is very thankful that I have no desire (okay that isn’t true, I have a smidgen of desire to see the movie, I wouldn’t want to pay money on the movie though) to see 50 Shades of Grey that is coming out Valentine’s Day.

I have come up with a list of movies that is currently playing or are coming to theaters this Valentine’s Day weekend in theatre (depending on your location and availability of course):

  1.  Jupiter Ascending
  2. Seventh Son
  3. Old Fashioned
  4. Kinsman: The Secret Service
  5. The Last Five Years
  6. The Spongebob Movie
  7. Project Almanac
  8. The Loft
  9. Boy Next Door
  10. Black Sea
  11. Love, Rosie
  12. Somewhere Only We Know
  13. What We Do in the Shadows
  14. American Sniper
  15. Strange Magic
  16. Blackhat
  17. Paddington
  18. The Wedding Ringer
  19. Black or White
  20. Mortdecai
  21. Pass the Light
  22. The Imitation Game
  23. Spare Parts
  24. Cake
  25. Mommy
  26. Still Alice
  27. Selma
  28. Song One
  29. Red Army
  30. Taken 3
  31. Big Hero 6
  32. The Hobbit: Desolation of Smuag
  33. A Most Violent Year
  34. Inherent Vice
  35. The Theory of Everything
  36. Interstellar
  37. Nightcrawler
  38. Whiplash
  39. Into the Woods
  40. Wild
  41. The Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 1
  42. The Woman in Black 2: Angel of Death
  43. Song of the Sea
  44. Two Days, One Night
  45. Top Five
  46. Penguins of Madagascar
  47. The Rewrite
  48. Annie
  49. Birdman
  50. Gone Girl

Although #8 & #9 are creepy, at least it doesn’t pretend to be a romance like 50 Shades of Grey. Now I know some on the list  have been out for a while, there are still quite a few movie theaters showing these movies. It all depends on what theater you go to. I am using the movies that are available in East Tennessee up till Valentine’s Day.

What movie would you rather see on Valentine’s Day than 50 Shades of Grey?Let me know in the comments below!

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My Valentine’s Day 2014

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Valentine’s Day wasn’t a a huge ordeal this year. I was really excited for where Chris was going to take me, but honestly for most if the day I kept thinking of one thing, I needed to get his gift done.

I decided to make him for Valentine’s Day this year 52 reason why I love him. While I know I can’t narrow the reasons down to that number, I decided to try anyway. I won’t lie it was hard. It took me hours staring at the computer trying to figure out what words to say. Trying to describe why you love someone is hard, especially since there are so many reasons, and for me loving Christopher comes as easy and natural as breathing. Can be difficult at times when you are upset with each other, but it’s like exercise- those muscles are getting stronger and so is the relationship.

It took me I want to say about 4-5 hours to finish the whole thing. It took me a while. All the paper and gluing I had to do. I was very glad I had told Chris that I we should have dinner later at 10, because originally we were thinking about having dinner at 7:30 and I only finished his gift a little after 7:30.

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Look at this lovely mess.

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ALL DONE! Yah!

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52 Reasons Why I Love You!

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On the left is the box the deck of cards came from and on the right is the end result of this project. I don’t think the cards would have fit in there. I used a lot of paper.

After that I sped through getting ready. I was originally going to curl my hair, but I was too impatient and I decided to just try to give it volume instead.  I called Chris to let him know I was on my way. I was very excited to see where he was going to take me. I don’t know why I was really excited for this Valentine’s Day, I knew we weren’t going to be doing a lot. I think it was because I was excited to just spend time with him and I wanted to see what he thought of his gift.

After I got my makeup on, which took less time than I suspected, I kept pacing back and forth. Bothered my roomate and hallmates until Chris texted me to let me know he was here. I was freaking out.

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When he finally arrives I head down to meet him (guests are not allowed into the dorm unaccompanied) and I see him there and he is so surprised by what I was wearing, very different from what I usually wear, but I loved the outfit and I was rocking it. I got lots of compliments and stares that night.

When we arrived to dinner I was genuinely surprised to find out that we were eating at Copper Cellar! I was really excited I hadn’t eaten at this restaurant since I was 12! I loved the food and it felt so fancy! Now I was nervous because we were an our early, so I didn’t know what we were going to do. Well it turns out that a lot of people didn’t show up for their reservations (sometimes people book multiple restaurants ahead of time and than give their date more options as to where they want to go, but they never cancel the other bookings. We were able to as a result get in a hour early! I was very happy.

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When it came time to giving gifts, I insisted Chris open his gift first. I couldn’t wait to see his reaction. He was confused and shocked at first. I explained to him what it was and he loved it. I was so happy that he loved his gift. I had also bought chocolate and a starter Theros deck ( he is into Magic the Gathering), but he said his favorite gift was the deck of cards I made for him.

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Looking at the cards I made for him. 😀

Now when he handed me his gift I was nervous, he said that it wasn’t a ring so I shouldn’t worry (which I was very glad for I am not ready for that yet). Well, when I opened the book I was shocked. He gave me real emerald earrings. They were beautiful. I was speechless. He even laughed from how speechless I was. I’m honestly surprised I didn’t cry because it was an amazing gift and I was amazed that he bought it for me. I knew it must have cost a lot. Chris at one point said with my reaction everyone would have thought he proposed. Man, my reaction when he proposes, I will probably cry, freak out, and be dumbfounded all in one. Anyway.

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I was genuinely shocked.

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The Emerald Earrings

 

The rest of dinner was great I had , delicious wine, crab cakes mashed potatoes, and Cesar salad. I was stuffed. We just spent time together and it was wonderful. After dinner was over we drove around, did some shopping, and went home and cuddled while watching The Golden Age of Sinbad.

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It was a wonderful Valentine’s Day. I believe this is on par with our first Valentine’s Day (part 2- I will explain the story in another post later). How was your Valentine’s Day? What has been your best Valentine’s Day? Let me know in the comments.

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

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How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day if You Are Single?

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We all at one point have been single on Valentine’s Day. You may or may not have a special someone in your life, however you can still celebrate Valentine’s Day.

This is a great time to give yourself lots of love because if you don’t love yourself and recognize your best attributes, no one will. Also if you have friends that are single, why not spend the day with them! Romantic love is not the only kind of love that exists. You love your friends, family, and yourself. So share the love you have with your family and friends this year!

Either way, here are a list of ideas that you can do for yourself:

  • Spa Day! Whether you go to a professional spa, or you buy a bunch of items to set up your own at home spa do it. Get a manicure, pedicure, heck get a massage. (I love massages).  Have them do your hair, makeup,etc. Go all out girl, you deserve it.
  • Buy Yourself Flowers. You can have the flowers sent to the office and special delivered for you. If people ask you who the flowers are from you can just say, “Someone Awesome.” You are awesome after all.If you feel self conscious about that you can just buy flowers and have them in your home. Just because it is Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate yourself
  • Movie Night! Whether you are having a horror or bad sci fi movie marathon. Have a movie night in with yourself.
  • Treat yourself to Dinner. If you are feeling bold and a little rebelious treat yourself to dinner. Yes by yourself. I won’t lie it is scary to eat by yourself and strange, but there is nothing wrong with it. You may be feeling awkward at first and this is totally understandable
  • Shopping Spree! Buy yourself something really nice. Since you don’t have to worry about buying for someone you love why not go on a shopping spree and buy something nice for yourself. I personally would love to get this Tiffany’s necklace for myself.

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  • Go on a road trip out of town. Valentine’s Day is a weekend this year, so why not go to the beach if it is warm enough or go walking along a mountain trail. Heck take a trip into the city and check into a hotel room. Treat yourself you deserve it!
  • Host a party! Have a valentine’s day party with your single friends! You can all hang out, eat food, and exchange gifts!
  • Have fun! No matter what you do on Valentine’s Day have fun. It honestly doesn’t matter if you have someone on Valentine’s Day it is just an added bonus.

What are your plans for Valentine’s Day? Let me know in the comments below!

 

Valentines Day Gifts for your Book Lover & Writer

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Valentine’s Day is coming up! Do you know what you are getting for your book lover and or writer? Here are some ideas and suggestions from one herself! Just click on the image if you are interested in the item.

  • A Book Safe. Depending on how the book lover in your life feels you may or may not want to get this for them. If you do get a book safe for them make sure you put something inside. Whether it is a nice piece of jewelry (either something literary or a key necklace would be fitting), a handwritten letter or poem.
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    And if you are thinking about proposing, well here is something I recommend.

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  • Literary Candles. Even though we have electricity for light it can’t replace the warmth that candles give off. They have candles from Edgar Allen Poe to Jane Austen. I can’t wait to get a candle for myself.

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  • Personal Library Kit. This is my dream! Seriously, I would buy this for myself right now if I wasn’t a responsible adult paying her way through school. I have so many books and I have always been afraid to lend them to people. This is a great gift for any book lover that should honestly open up their own library.

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  • Literary Charmed Necklaces. If you are wanting to stick with jewelry but don’t want to get the typical heart necklace for her. Here are two book charm necklaces I found that I think are really cute. You can even
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  • Writing Journals. No writer can ever have enough journals for writing. I love the detail on the first journal, but if you want a variety of colors, moleskin has a lot to offer and they are a literary staple for any writer.
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  • Literary Prints. Prints that are literary and are romantic is something simple but nice to give to someone for Valentine’s Day. Here are some prints that I really like.

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  • Quill or Pens. Every writer could always use a special pen or a quill. Here are some that I found that I like.
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I love to write. I usually write short stories, fantasy, or blog posts. When it comes to reading I usually read anything, although I tend to stick with Young adult Literature, Classic Literature, and Fantasy.

Which of these gift ideas do you like? Let me know in the comments below.